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Warning Signs Of A Breakup And What To Do If Something Is Threatening Your Happy Ever After

Warning Signs Of A Breakup And What To Do If Something Is Threatening Your Happy Ever After

If you are sitting home wondering if there might be something wrong with your relationship, then that's the time to try and notice the warning signs and avoid splitting up. After all it's a lot easier to prevent something than to fix it after it's broken.

Watch out for these warning signs:

• Arguing all the time. I mean it may be healthy for a couple to argue once in a while and then enjoy the fun of making up, but fighting all the time and not making up is just not good.
• Ignoring each other. You have stopped arguing and now you just avoid each other as much as possible. What could be lonelier than sleeping with someone who acts like you aren't even there.
• Your partner spends most of their time with their buddies. I'm not referring to getting out occasionally with friends which everyone needs to do, but is actually spending more time with other people than with you. That is a cause for worry.

So, if you see these signs of trouble, you'd best not ignore them but deal with them now. Ask yourself if your partner is someone you want a future with or not. If so, then you need to fight for your future together - in a nice way.

Ask your lover out for a date to a public place like a restaurant, this might help prevent your discussion turning into an argument.

Don't get off on the wrong start by accusing the other person or complaining about how upset, ignored or let down that you feel. This will put them on the defensive and lead nowhere. Ask them about how they feel about the current situation and if they feel like anything could be improved.

Don’t jump into the chat by flinging accusations or telling your spouse how let down/ignored/unhappy you feel. You will only put them on the defensive and that will lead to an argument. Instead, ask them how they are feeling. Are they happy with the current situation?  Is there anything they feel could be improved?  

This could be uncomfortable for you and you need to steel yourself not to get upset and take offense.
If you can get started communicating you might get an idea of how to get your relationship back on track.

While you may not resolve everything in one evening you can get reassurance that you care about each other and share a mutual bond of love and respect and it is worth fighthing for.

Heeding the warning signs before a break up and taking action is a position step to save your relationship and live happily ever after.

Maybe you feel like you are the only one trying? That you’re just not getting through to your partner? Follow this link: Fear of Intimacy to learn how to reconnect with your lover no matter how stubborn or distant they are and no matter how hopeless or difficult your situation seems.